Succeeded in proving my own failure?

At this moment, success in my social promixity is claimed by people that can excel in academic pursuits. Viewed with awe, they seem to be people that possess a special set of skills that few around them have gathered. They seem confident and self-esteemed, all set and ready for the outside world. People of the otherwise, those at the other tip of the curve, seem extremely condemned by their academic failures, as though life is a subset of academics...

Out there, success may change from grades to cash. Ability to spin money from nothing. Academics, and why we link success to academics in schoolling years, have a lot to do with the perceived closed links between higher education to higher annual income. In a year's time, I will upgrade my rat race, from academics to cash. Easy monitoring and comparsion, great for economist, bad for the rest of the normal human beings.

Partnership. Things seem really beak when you need your government to tell you to have more sex. Ah, I am a bit mis-representing them. They did not say that so implicitly. They just say families need more babies, while not opening up the trade of infants (Thank goodness they did not! Never do that please!!!!). Please have more babies, but you cannot satisfy this induced increase consumption through a market system. Thus, 1 (or a couple) can only be self-sufficient, almost a Robin Cruise Economy, where producer(s) are also the consumer(s).

Failure (of mine) however, stems from disabilities to clearly define success, and to let society, norms and others carve something from our bodies - our souls. Academics, money, partnership... Currently, I clearly have none. To be honest, I bash myself up a lot because my definition of success is indeed closely linked to the societial definition of success. Maybe I should start bashing myself up for free-riding on 'universal' definition of success, which by itself have many negative externality issues that remain unresolved.