I am not a sexist

These are just some thoughts that I had today. They evolved from some of the conversations I had with my female friends. Do read if you are interested, and read it with a pinch of salt. I am not trying to make a statement, just doing some mindless writing on my blog. Here I go.

Do I always ask stupid questions? This question came out in my head, like many of my questions that I have for my friends. I am just a curious cat. Sometimes, I do get killed, but my brain is slow to learn. When I have a question, and I feel that its not insensitive or offensive to ask, I will do so, to people that I think that have the ability to give me a satisfactory answer. This was my question, “Would you mine if your husband becomes a househusband while you go out and work?”

Most of my answers were ‘yes, I do mind’. Actually, I did not remember any female saying that she does not mind, but I just want to be politically correct. On a personal note, I was quite shocked. They were well educated females, those that I think would be carving out their careers in a few years time, as well as maybe forming a family. Some said it felt weird, while others say that doesn’t guys have this certain ego that would be hurt if they are the one taking care of the house while their wives became the breadwinners. Most guys would be, I suppose, but what if the guy did not mind? Some still said it feels weird, while others were not able to give me a real clear answer.

I know some females do want to achieve something in their career, and the society is more accepting of this idea. What about househusbands? Are they now a small-discriminated group of people that are deemed useless because they do not bring income to the family? I would not think so about my wife if she becomes a full-time housewife. I would be appreciative, as I think all guys should if they were to have a wife that is willing to give up their careers for the family. Neither would I force her if she wants to have her own career. it was weird to me. I thought that females that were interested in having a career of their own would not mind a husband that cooks for her when she comes home, that tends the house and maybe even take care of the kids.

I remember a few females saying that its because guys nowadays do not earn enough to support a family, given current cost of living. Society only gets more complex, more confusing. I stand in the junction, looking around, but I see no clear direction. Thus, I take no action and just sit at the junction, thinking about where to head next. Maybe, I am best just staying at this junction.